Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: September 7, 2012
I hop in my ratchet piece of a car, (god bless her to rusty bits) and go over to my aunt’s house to visit like I always do. On a typical visit I harass her toddler by scaring her to death when her mom is not looking. Begging them out of food and drinking up all the Kool-Aid. So I go about doing what I usually do only this time I have my daughter with me. She is running around with my aunt’s daughter terrorizing everything and everyone in their path of tiny tot destruction.
The evening starts to wind down and I finish up bugging my aunt and get ready to go. During the process of leaving my little one says she has to go “pot pot” so I take her. Thinking I would be in and out, the bathroom pit stop is now 15 min in.
Little did I know my aunt was changing her baby and using that opportunity to ruin my life as I know it. Upon leaving the bathroom I noticed my duffel bag style purse which quite possibly holds my entire life in it, was moved from the couch to the table. No biggie I thought. Little did I know that move would be my un-doing.
I hug my aunt’s little rug rat, who tries to bite me and run. So I tripped her as gently with a loving foot. Cut my eyes at her mom, roll them and tell her she sucks (that’s our traditional I love you secret code) as I slam the door. God I love my family!
Getting my baby in the car seat was when I first noticed it. Sniff. Sniff. What in the world is that smell I said with a twisted nose. Immediately I place proper blame on the toddler who is potty trained, yet after the sniff test she comes up clean. I chalk it up to maybe I ran over something or in the air. Toss my duffel bag purse in passenger seat and we head out.
Just before I made it home I decided to run to Kroger to grab a few items. I have about 10 more minutes before I pull into Kroger and then I smell it again. Sniff. Sniff. What in the SAM HILL is that smell. I mean it’s foul. It’s might as well be Satan’s lower bowels being boiled on a hot summer day. Could it be ME? No way. To be sure, I stealthily sniff my armpits, fingers, various other parts and verified I was not the causing this malicious, vile scent, that seemed to be stuck on me.
Now I’m pissed because I think of my kids ate something in the car and dropped food and I’m about to find a new life form growing under my seat. Parked and annoyed that it’s dark outside and the inside light does not work, I grab my cell phone. The screen light will have to. I need to know where that smell is coming from. Using my cell phone light I look under the seats, seeing just a few chicken nuggets and a few fries, I am pleased with the finding. Being a mom of 4 I ALWAYS have a chicken nugget or fry under my seat, and they have yet to turn into a foulness that would be assaulting my nostrils. So I toss the toddler in the back of the buggy and my duffle bag in the front part of the cart. No sooner I start pushing my toddler thru the store and there it is again! Then with assurance in my tone I declared for a FACT it’s something in the air! It HAS to be. With my ugly very irritated face, on I march to grab my stuff. Each isle I ventured up, the stink was upon me. It got to the point that as I passed people I asked them, do they smell something. Most of them looked at me like I crazy. Looking at me, I could not blame them though. I’m wearing bent up, broken flip-flops, no bra, dinner stains on my shirt, and yet I’m asking them do I smell something.
Hurrying to the line, I prayed no one snapped a picture of me and I’m now posted on the People of Wal-Mart site with the caption “do I stink”.
Casing out the lines, looking the shortest one, I make my move and low & behold, a woman and her toddler rush in behind me. Thinking to myself “please God, please God” and then it happens. The little girl says “mama I smell stinky!” I immediately defend my body odor explaining it’s in the air. Her mother points out as I’m done putting all my items up, that the smell is concentrated right here with us. You better believe more ME than Us. She then starts looking around on the ground, because surely someone had stepped in dog poop.
While this is going on, the toddler puts my duffel bag up with grocery items. My bag wasn’t there 10 seconds and the bagger said the stink was coming from my bag. OH KNOW HE DIDN’T! Immediately he is a racist, (well not really but I was mad) and he was against anyone not wearing a bra in MY eyes at the time. Without a nasty word, (only the stink eye, and I can give a mean stink eye) I dump my duffel out right there. SEE, I exclaimed, only to see him pick up the poopy diaper among the other contents, which I didn’t know my aunt had thrown in my bag.
I was outdone. Flabbergasted that for almost 1 hr, I was riding around with diaper filled of hot poopy hell, in my bag, and more than likely, had I not made this Kroger trip, it would still be in my bag in the morning. Just the thought of it festering and growing overnight in bag, cause me to throw up in my mouth, just a teeny bit. Tears were streaming from laughing so hard. Oooh weee! She got me!
I finally got home, called her and even before I could say it she dying laughing. Good hearty belly laugh. She said she didn’t know how I made it that long before finding the diaper. She explained that she knew if she would have just asked me to take the diaper out to the trash I would told her pigs would fly first. Therefore she said my bad attitude cause bought this on myself. I could only shake my head cracking up. She knew my smart mouth would say something like that. Promptly I hung up, tap-slapped the “end” button (touch screen is impossible to hang up on anyone) so that I would feel better. Aired out my purse and just shook my head. Yes my family is full of jokesters and my aunt got me real good. So now, it’s on like donkey kong! I have vowed on my children’s last drop of blood I will make her pay. She must pay for causing me a stink at Kroger.
So do you have pranksters in your family? Please feel free to share your story.
Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: September 4, 2012
When you get chance check out the trailer to the movie Good Hair with Chris Rock…. then read my blog http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=je4IPR-ci5I
I can remember when I was younger the main thing my mama always said was, I cant wait till you get a little older so I perm your hair cause its just to thick. Now my mama wasnt mad at my hair or thought my hair was ugly, it just took from start to finish almost 3hours to do. I HATED getting my hair down! With. A. Passion. Yet with hate and fear of burned ears from the hot comb, I always waited on Sunday eager and ready to go so I could get to school looking “pretty” with no naps. If you click that link, then you have a idea what my hair looked like. Or at least thats what I thought my hair looked like. “Good hair” use to the in the deal and everyone was trying to achieve it. If you were biracial most times it was said that was automatic good hair. To me “good hair” stayed super soft, comb could just go thru it with out a snag. Lets not forget the infamous baby hair you laid down with a tooth brush. Most importantly it never ever kinked. So I keep a perm, some blue magic grease, and a toothbrush. Wow. Yeah, that was how I rolled trying to achieve what I presumed was “good hair”. Took me some time to learn we ALL have good hair. Your hair, my hair, her hair, their hair. Biracial does not give you “good hair” status. Indian in your family dont either. Took me some time but I learned my hair is good because its my hair and I love whether anyone else does. I use judge people by their hair in my younger immature days. Wished I didnt but hey its part of a past I have matured from.
Fast forward almost 25yrs and 4 kids in to life. I notice my friend talking about transitioning to natural ( perm free hair ) and I said to myself, why would anyone want to be perm free. She chopped of her hair and look beautiful. Just a beautiful as she did with her weave, perm and pressed hair. My eyes opened up almost instantly. Some transition without doing the big chop, and some transition by doing the big chop and cutting out all the chemicals in the hair. I suggest doing some research and seeing what is best for you. Me personally im transiting without doing the big chop. I havent had a perm since last November 2011 and since then I have made a effort to embrace my natural hair in its natural state. From time to time I may wear a protective style such as braids or a latch hook.
I write this post because I look back and see where I really have grown a lot mentally. Noway would I ever look at a woman head and see the beauty in her kinky curls, or a fro. Never would I have found a TWA cute at all. Once I stopped and truly look at my hair and other natural ladies, I immediately saw a whole new cute. No longer did I see ugly nappy hair. I have learned to appreciate my texture which is a 4d,e and see the true beauty that always was in my face.
When I finally decided to stop perms and press, you tube became my best friend. One night I remember looking up and 3hrs had past by. There are hundreds if not thousands of videos posted to show you how to style your hair. How surprise was I when I can across some videos of hairs styles I had always seen, but assumed the person had good hair. Going thru the videos all I keep saying was ” Oh that style wasn’t because of good hair, she probably she just twisted it, pinned it and took it loose. There are many many ways you can manipulate the hair and create these supposedly “good hair” styles I was seeing. Never knew it. It was really a eye opener to learn about something I should of embraced years ago. My mother wore her natural in the 70′s but soon as the pressing comb and perms got popular she ditched her pick for lye ( now no lye relaxers) and never talked to me about my natural hair. I just know she would say my roots were getting nappy time for a touch up or a good press. That’s all I ever knew.
Basically this post is to be of encouragement to someone thinking of going natural and letting go of the perms. Old habits die hard. Just remember no matter how you wear your hair dont let anyone tell you how your wear it is wrong. Long as your happy, wear how you want. I have people who talk about my hair and just hate it since I have stop perming. OH WELL HELL. Thats my motto.
Below you see a couple of hair styles I wear. Im still transitioning and have a while before all traces of perm is out. So if your transitioning or thinking about it, please share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you.
Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: February 27, 2012
Writing as a Form of Therapy
It is a known fact that: putting words down on paper may help people feel better. What many people do not know is that writing can even have a relevant therapeutic effect. Indeed, the term ”writing therapy” has been coined to depict the process of using written words to ease the pain and lift the spirit. It is therefore, not surprising why so many teenagers grow so fond of their diary or personal journal when they go through their first heartaches and first setbacks in life. However, studies have proven that writing yields far more benefits than thought.
According to James Pennebaker, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas, most people feel much happier and healthier after writing, and the aftermath effects are more than just emotional. Indeed, in a study published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology in April 1988, it was found that six weeks after writing about stressful events, college students were reported to have developed more active tlymphocyte cells, which are known to play a primary role in boosting the immune system.
Joshua Smyth, a psychology assistant professor at the North Dakota State University believes that writing gives people a sense of control because in order to write about problems, people are forced to split them up in portions, making them appear much more manageable and less threatening. Ron Capps, a 25-year veteran Army officer and founder of the Veterans Writing Project can’t explain it better: “Writing allows you to take a memory stuck to the back of your mind, make it physical, and shape it so that it can be ultimately recognized as a memory and therefore no longer hurt.”
People from different walks of life have been discovering the benefits of writing as a form of therapy including war veterans, goal makers, and even patients suffering from acute to serious illnesses like autoimmune disorders or mesothelioma. Tangible results make writing therapy further more appealing. In particular, a study, published in the April 14, 1999, issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association, demonstrated how expressive writing helped ease the symptoms of asthma and rheumatoid arthritis in patients suffering from such ailments—calming the mind clears a path for individuals to actually take action or start their path to healing.
Writing also proves a beneficial outlet for the daily personal hurdles of patients including dealing with physical pain and emotional suffering. It also offers a positive outlook for those patients wishing to attain results such as losing weight, keeping their cholesterol levels low, changing a stated prognosis or even maintaining an exercise regimen.
But writing is not only a great form of therapy for people given a grim prognosis or those suffering from post-traumatic stress. Indeed, writing can also be a great way to inspire and motivate those undertaking goals and objectives. Whether posting thoughts on social networks, blogs or personal journals, writing can be a great way to say good-bye to the past, appreciate the present and say hello to the future by simply recording desires, wishes, and special future aspirations.
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Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: January 27, 2012
*forgive the typos, sent from my cell*
We have already established I’m a pitful blogger. Bless my heart y’all, with my every 6 months post. I promise I’m working on it. So let me catch you up on what’s been going on with me.
The Muffin (aka Milk Gangsta) turned 2yrs old on the 6th of this month and is still currently breastfeeding. She nurses at least 2x’s at night…. 4x’s a day during the work week and on demand on the weekends. We are still cloth diapering. She shows some interest in potty training so were moving foward at her pace. My goal is to have her in her favorite Dora panties before the summer. (Tips and Tricks are welcome PLEASE) Oh and who has a toddler who just up and changed their sleep pattering…mine has started going bed every night around 1-130am. *oh hells nawl she didn’t!* Can you say 1 step away from Nyquil dipped nips! Lol. Such is the life of a toddler.
I still work with new mommies at WIC helping them to start and maintain a breastfeeding relationship. *LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my job* Its a passion of mine to get our african american moms breastfeeding and helping to bring down our infant mortality rate. Oh, and since I love my job so, guess what?….its not work any more to me. How awesome is that!
Other extras in my life include my training as a labor doula. But I have been doing mostly postpartum doula. I enjoy going over my clients house and making them comfortable and relaxed. After having a baby, nothing feels more better coming home come to clean house, a few meals prepared and frozen, babies room organized, moms bedroom full of clean lines and to top it off a wonderful foot soak and pedicure.
As much as I love being a moms labor support, being oncall with a 2yr old is a bit trying. So I’m moving forward with postpartum work for new moms in my spare time.
I’ve also found and IBCLC & a midwifery course I will be starting with in the next few months…. Goals – IBCLC by 2013 (latest 2014)…….Midwife Apprentice *fingers crossed* 2014 ……offically a Midwife in practice 2017-18….
So do you have your boots on?.. What have changed for you lately?….. New career, new baby, did you move, are a you WOHM turned SAHM, are you newly single and loving it? .
~Talk to Me, Ill Talk Back~
Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: January 12, 2012
Purex has come out with Purex UltraPacks. They have 2 varieties to choose from, Mt. Breeze and Free & Clear.
The motto is simple.
No More Mess. No More Spills, No More heavy jugs. Its laundry simplified. I found love on a one way laundry street. Not lugging a heavy jug around, won me over.
Same as their other laundry detergents, Purex Ultra Packs are still :
*works in HE (high-efficiency machine)
For best results, make sure your hands are dry when handling them. I found out the hard way and the pack stuck to my hand and broke open. Your supposed to add to the machine BEFORE you add the clothes but since I tore that one, it went in with the clothes. I just use a shirt, and wiped my hands with it and tossed in the wash. You only need the one pack per load unless heavily soiled then use 2. The cycle soaped up good and my clothes had a good scent. If you are using a front loader just add to drum, not drawer and your good to go.
These little packets, pack a heavy punch to the dirt. I was nicely surprised and very satisfied with the results all that week. Starting in February 2012 Purex Ultra Packs will be in stores along with FreeSamplePurex.com. Purex know how important it is for the consumer to be satisfied with their product. They are confident you will like them, and happy to offer you a free sample.
Dont worry I’ll keep you posted when the free sample website goes live so you can get your sample. I’m also going to host a giveaway and someone will when a full size bag of Purex Ultra Packs. Please leave a comment below telling me if you have ever used any Purex products before. Let me know which one it was, which variety, and if you won the Ultra Packs which scent would you like.
For more entries :
*WINNERS WILL BE CHOOSEN FEB 17, 2012*
disclosure: Purex provided a sample to write a review. All opinions expressed here are 100% my own and the truth.
Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: December 29, 2011
As a single mother, I’m always looking for ways to save my money. With 4 kids, the one thing I’m certain of is that I will spend money on detergent the next 20 years. Typically I search for the cheapest detergent. However the real, real cheap stuff was not cutting the mustard. Yes I bought detergent for 2.99 and assumed it would clean behind me, toddlers and teens. So a few years ago a friend told me about Purex. At any given time in her laundry room you bet on their being 5 boxes of Purex. I assumed they were pricey since this friend is a “I don’t do no-brand or cheap stuff” type shopper. Then she showed me ticket price for 4.99$ price I was sold. That was like I said a few years ago and I’ve been a Purex fan since.
So when the opportunity came to try the new Triple Action Purex I was happy as if Christmas had come again. I alway have dirty load on stand by so as soon as it arrived I got to washing. I had the Mountain Breeze scent and was pleasantly surprised. I usually am a lavender girl but I definitely will buy Mt. Breeze again.
I use only 1 cupful as directed with a standard size load and it washed wonderfully. With other (non-mustard cutting detergents) I have had to use 3 capsules just to see some suds. For me I can honestly say I get no less than 25 regular loads in a 33 load bottle. You can’t beat that in my opinion. The only thing I havent done, is try the Triple Action Purex on any heavily soiled laundry yet. However I have no doubt I wont be disappointed. I’m a regular Purex user (back before the new and improved version) and have washed previous heavily soiled clothes and had great results.
Another plus was the smell on the laundry. The scent it left on the sheets and clothes were gentle to the nose. I especially don’t like over powering smells on my sheets since I lay on them for hours. Purex detergents scents are just enough and for me that’s an extra plus.
What I appreciate about Purex is the “Prove it yourself” motto. They don’t want you to take their word for it. It’s important for Purex to have the consumer happy and satisfied. I feel Purex lives up to that. They don’t have the gimmicky, bells or whistles, just plain old proven cleaning facts.
This detergent is New & Improved. Its promises to leave the clothes more bright, white and clean for half the cost of the leading brand. The talented scientists not only created an even better formula, but Purex still stayed mindful of the consumers pocketbook. Keeping the cost low.
If you own a High Efficiency (HE) washer, dont panick, this new and improved formula is still specifically formulated to work in both the traditional machines and the (HE) washers. This is very much appreciated since most (HE) washers must only use (HE) detergent and can get expensive.
If you’re not a Purex user I suggest you pick your scent and give them a try. I think the hardest part for me when I run out and buy another bottle, will be picking a new scent. I want to try them all.
Are you ready to try a bottle of Purex Triple Action New and Improved formula?…… Sure you do! Well its simple and easy peazy to get one.
Purex is giving 3 lucky winners will receive a FREE bottle. None of these are mandatory but it would be nice if you did.
Leave a comment, telling me if you have ever used any Purex product, and what scent you would like to try if you were to win.
It would be nice if you “like” Purex on FB, and let them know Single Mama Tales It All sent you.
Or if you’re a twitter fiend, you can give Purex a follow on twitter.
Follow me on twitter and tweet about this giveaway.
If you’re looking for the “not your typical mom blog” feel free to GFC or “like” my blog on FB.
The more you enter the more chances you have of winning. Be sure to leave your email address so I can let you know you won.
*WINNER WILL BE CHOOSEN FEB 17,2012*
Disclosure Purex provided a free sample of their Triple Action laundry detergent so I could write a review. Everything stated here is my opinion and the truth of how I feel about the product.
Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: October 6, 2011
This post is
long been over due. A while ago, I was able to review some coconut oil. Coconut oil was something I had not, had the privilege of using in anything I cooked. I was excited to put my infamous a little dash of this, my dash of that, to the test with Tropical Traditions Coconut Oil.
I immediately loved how it looked.
Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: August 20, 2011
*posted from cell, 4 give the typos*
*photo credit babble.com*
My childrens father have worked at the same resturant for some years now. Sometime ago I stop getting child support. I was under the impression he had stop working there. He was going thru some things (which I gave less than a real fuck about, cause as a single mama I go thru things all the time but I don’t take a vacation and stop caring for my kids)… So I chaulked it up, and figured until he until he gets back to working child support will take it out again. My friend went to eat where we thought he USE to work at and low and behold the bastard was there, cooking up a storm. She imm called me and told me. I called the friend of court, sat on hold 45min before even talking to someone, then they told me they still have the child support order in place, (translation, child support should have NEVER stopped) read back to me the name of the job on the order, stated they don’t know why I haven’t received anything, and said they would reissue the order again imm, and that the resturant had 45days to comply. Friend of the court also let me know its ILLEGAL for a company to disregard a income withholding order for a employee. So I called up to his job and asked for their corp number to speak to someone in regards to the lawsuit I would be filing against their company for back child support they refused to deduct out of his check all this time. I faxed over the income with holding I had received a copy of from 2yrs ago and let them know a new one was on the way. I also faxed copies of my child support issued debit visa card statements showing 0$ balances and the last payment I received from him which was during a period he worked for them. They tried to claim they didn’t receive such a order….so I explained to them that for whatever reason they “lost” the order and stop taking it out and I am still owed that money, once its proven they had the order and ignored it. (I have the patience of a snail. I can wait this thing out. The truth will prevail) So I have to wait 30 days to give them a chance to investigate and see “what happen” to the child support order they were honoring up until they stopped……moral of the long post is…..
There are too many men getting off scott fucking free and are holding jobs. Legit jobs that give them a check and take taxes out. I don’t know if there giving good penis or bomb ass head to the HR folks or what, but they (the job) are bound by law to deduct that money. So the far the deadbeats getting paid “under the table” which for them will backfire (are able to skate) so to speak. Dumbasses are not planning for the future. Cause we all know, not having social security and taxes took out, because they don’t want there checks touched, (translation, they won’t want “the man” making them take care their kids, since they can’t do it on their own) mean they will grow old and not have 1 penny to help them out in there olden years. Too bad for they dumb asses. however I for one will not sit by and let the shit slide. To the best of my abilty I will continue to advocate for my child support, by any means I can legally. Especially since I cant get it given me in a reasonable fashion on his own. These kids were NOT created because of some strong masturbation. We both made them we both need to provide for them, one way or the other.
Thanks for letting me vent a little.
Posted by: SingleMamaTalesItAll on: August 8, 2011
THE WINNER OF THE GIVE AWAY IS
I am promoting breastfeeding this week by multiple fb postings and notes regarding the benefits of breastfeeding, I attended the Big Latch On event in my area with the support of my husband, I attended the WIC sponsored event at local farmers market, and just recently was able to help a friend who wanted to give breastfeeding another go. I have been nursing in public also, which was a big step for me! *liked your page* *followed on twitter
THANKS TO EVERYONE THAT ENTERED. ITS WAS AWESOME SEEING HOW EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU SUPPORT BREASTFEEDING. ITS APPRECIATED BY ALL MOM AND NEW MOMS TO BE. PLEASE KEEP DOING WHAT YOUR DOING!